entry 2

Everyone has methods of coping.
Some people shut themselves away from the world, while others throw themselves into it. I, for example, try and "treat" myself often to keep my morale up as I regretfully use a positive-negative reinforcement strategy. This is harmless mostly but it can make me obsessive, agitated and sometimes exceed feelings of worthlessness when I'm with or without a "treat."
I worry about Jason shutting himself away. In fact, I worry about Gavin doing that too. They both are showing that they don't want to deal with the situations at hand by escaping into a fantasy world through gaming. It is hard as I want them to be comforted but not close themselves away.
Jason could do with exploring other ways to escape constructively as a short-term solution, e.g. hiking (possibly with friends), camping, having some time to just be himself etc. He always seems dissatisfied and it is difficult for me to know what to do and say when he is constantly wanting to change. I know I am similar but at least I am a broken record! Jason seems to want to push to something new all the time and then when he gets there he is not happy with the result. I wish I knew how to offer the best advice. For now I think he just wants to avoid it all. How can I help now?

I suppose the best way would to just act normal..? Avoid making him confront it until he is ready, because he is a grown man and needs to make that decision on his own. So simply.. be supportive? And caring? It is hard not jumping in to "save" him but that is something I need to avoid doing entirely. I cannot take away someone's opportunity to learn and figure it out for themselves.
That in itself is preventing them from accountability and burdening myself with things that I simply cannot solve for them. Maybe advice should be shelved for now. Maybe he just needs a friend and someone to make him smile.